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Through this universal Life Energy, we can connect in a positive, accepting, loving way.

This is just one of the many ideas of Virginia Satir’s Transformational Systematic Therapy. The idea of her workings to me are something I strongly believe in.I have a firm stance that at human is made of matter(body) and energy (brain) coupled with a sense of spirit. 

So why do some therapies not address the spirit, or vital energies and life forces?  As one of the only living animals on this earth that can ponder what happens after life, it makes sense to take care of this energy source while it is alive. 

Satir has an in-depth therapy system that has worked across the world and for the past 70 years. Below lists basics concepts I like to live by and hope to understand more in-depth for the benefit of my life and clients.

1. Human beings are all unique manifestations of the same Universal Life Force. Through this universal Life Energy, we can connect in a positive, accepting, loving way. 2. Human processes are universal; all human beings experience themselves through doing, thinking, feeling, expecting, yearning and spiritual connection. Therefore, these human processes can be accessed and changed regardless of different environments, cultures, and circumstances.

3. People are basically good. At their core, essential level of Life Energy, people are naturally positive. They need to find this internal treasure to connect with and validate their own self-worth.

4. People all have the internal resources they need in order to cope successfully with whatever situations life provides and to grow through them. All necessary internal resources reside within, even those that people may have learned to judge in a negative way or those that are as yet undiscovered.

5. The “problem” is not the problem; how people cope with their problem is the problem. How seriously the person experiences the problem through the meanings they make, their worries and their copings, impacts on how great a problem it becomes for them.

6. The symptom is the subconscious solution to the problem, even if it creates dysfunctional patterns. It is the result of the person’s attempt to survive the pain of their problem. Although the person’s perceived problem needs to be heard and validated, therapeutic change needs to work on wholesome solutions from the person’s Life Energy and yearnings.

7. Therapy needs to focus on health and possibilities instead of problems and pathology. Life Energy is naturally positively directional and therapy needs to tap into the natural process of human growth in a positive direction. 8. Change is always possible. Even if

8. Change is always possible. Even if external change is limited, internal change is still possible. We can learn to be consciously responsible for and decide how we will live on our insides, even when the outside cannot change.

9. We cannot change past events; we can only change the impact that the past events have had on us. It is possible to resolve impacts from the past in order to live with more positive energy and be free of old hurts, angers, fears and negative messages in the present.

10. People do the best they can at any moment in time. Even when they have done very negative or destructive things, it is the best coping that they were capable of at that moment in time and is a reflection of their level of self-worth. Therefore, there is no reason to blame them for their past failures. Helping them experience their positively directional Life Energy will help them make new choices for the present and future.

11. Feelings belong to us. We all have them and can learn to be in charge of them. We can be responsible for them and make choices about them. We can listen to the positive life message from our feelings and give ourselves the validation we need. We can choose to let go of feelings that create negative energies and events and replace them with acceptance, appreciation, forgiveness, love and peace.

12. Wholeness, growth and evolution are natural human processes and, therefore, need to be the focus of any therapeutic change. Transformational change comes from the level of Life Energy and is a part of natural human growth and evolution. It means that people are becoming more of their true, spiritual Selves rather than their reactive, survival systems.

13. The therapist’s use of Self is the greatest therapeutic tool that the therapist has to create the conditions to facilitate positively directional, transformational change. Therapists who experience their own positively directional Life Energy are able to provide clients with therapeutic relationships based on care, acceptance and new possibilities. The therapist often experiences the positive nature of the client’s Life Energy even before the client does and connects with the client at that level.

14. Hope is a significant component or ingredient for change to take place. When the therapist experiences the positive nature of the client’s true Self, hope becomes a tangible aspect of the therapeutic process and guides the way towards change.

(Aspects taken from a briefing by Dr. John Banmen, RPsych, RMFT & Kathlyne Maki-Banmen, MA, RCC)

My Grad school interview at Naropa

Some say that when you are meant to be in the right place at the right time you will feel nothing. No angst, no pain, no bliss, no excitement, you just are. I landed in Denver walked off the gateway and had this complacent feeling. There was nowhere else I needed to be but here, right now, feeling this.

What a feeling to have, as if time stopped, I could actually feel myself living in the exact present millisecond, there was no noise, I was me.


Soon I found my Mother who I was so happy to have come with me to check out my potential digs. We arrived at Naropa University just in time for a campus-wide meet and greet. We listened to the dean speak, heard a speaker talk and attended a sit in class. We thought we would be watching a class happen, but instead, we were in a class actively participating. Basically, I brought my mother to my first day of school at Naropa, it was awesome.  This is a highly contemplative environment, group discussion, no actual desks and high energy teachers. It would be as if I were going to yoga school all day, but instead of learning yoga, I am learning about psychology and meditation.

One more time, I am learning about psychology and meditation, all day.

I love the way this sounds, my heart is fluttering as I type.


Saturday I arrived at Naropa for my interviews SIN mother (I was actually bummed about this {disclaimer: not a momma’s girl, more on this topic later}). We sat & chatted with others, then was welcomed by the dean and with our peer group were hustled off into different directions. Somatics were in full on dance mode, Mindfulness group which I was in went to meditation and the Buddhist & wilderness people went off somewhere else.

In meditation, the room was perfectly lit, we were asked to breathe with our eyes open, which is something I have not been doing recently but something I will begin to practice again. This is so we can take this awareness into the waking state.

Group interview was interesting, 7 peers, 2 Naropa staff who later interviewed me in person. I rocked the in-person interview & feel I really bonded with my  interviewer. I am totally looking her up and Marcia to send them well deserved cards of gratitude & maybe even potentially my resume 😀 (a girl gotta eat).

I finish the day & my mother picks me up from school.

Let me repeat cause that sounds weird, MY MOTHER PICKED ME UP FROM SCHOOL.

She is the hardest working lady I know, being a teacher in another school district, meant she was not able to do this, my heart was always ecstatic when she did pick me up or took me somewhere on weekdays.

We went out to dinner downtown & I got to see how simply wonderful Boulder is & the people who live there.

My heart belongs there, where time is slow and people say hello to one another, not scared for their life upon approaching strangers.

Now I sit and wait for the call.